06-02-2019 06:54 PM
06-02-2019 06:54 PM
Hi All,
I'm new here but not new to anxiety. I have had GAD, SAD, and Panic Disorder my entire life. Generally I handle it well, I work full time in a school, I have hobbies and I am active, expect I do have periods when it gets on top of me. I am just recovering from a dark episode that saw me in bed, unable to move, eat or do much but sleep for days. This was all bought on by signing a lease for my first unit on my own and then regretting it.
I am 32 and have lived at home most of my life, except for periods here and there, including a four month stint that ended last week. I can live alone, I actually prefer it, but the idea of signing a lease, getting my own furniture and committing made me spiral. I have since cancelled the lease. Now I'm anxious that I'm the oldest person alive still living with their parents!!!
I am slowly recovering from what the Dr call a "mental health crisis" after he put me on some pretty heavy meds. I'm going back to work tomorrow after three days off - albeit against Dr's orders - because being away is making my anxiety worse as I'm scared they will fire me as I take so much time off for anxiety related things.
To top things off, when I told my bestfriend, she turned it back on me saying that I needed to make a decision if I wanted anxiety to rule my life. I do get that, but when you are in crisis mode and are considered a danger to yourself, I don't know that this comes into it, unfortunately.
I guess what I'm asking is, does anyone/has anyone dealt with the same issue (moving out/signing a lease) making their anxiety spiral into crisis? How do you remedy it?
Thank you all in advance.
06-02-2019 07:23 PM
06-02-2019 07:23 PM
hi @Catobun , welcome
You sound amazing! Working full time at a school is very high functioning.
I've been unemployed for the last 7 years due to my complex mental health problems. I'm only now just starting to apply for work since I'm finally on good meds with a really great psychiatrist. It may be very hard for me to find work because I have a 7 year absence from the workplace on my cv.
Good on you for going back to work, let us know how you are going with that.
Don't be too hard on yourself, lots of people live with their parents well into their late 20's and 30's because real estate prices have rocketed into unaffordable highs for the younger generation.
I'm a lot older than you & now live by myself (and the cat). But I remember moving out of home was quite traumatic. My family was very unsupportive and none of my friends could relate so it was incredibly lonely and stressful. I had to live with strangers (housemates) and was really frightened and awkward about that.
It's a shame your friend was unkind to you, especially when you are raw from crisis. But I hope you will find some support here and hope you have a compassionate worker you can talk to (psychologist or psychiatrist) ?
I can't offer a solution to the great stress of having your first rental but I can tell you you are not alone. I suffer from debilitating anxiety and lots of other people here to do. I'm sure things will slowly improve for you as you recover from crisis. Be gentle with yourself, do you have any self-care things you can do?
07-02-2019 05:14 AM
07-02-2019 05:14 AM
@Catobun Hi Catbun and welcome to the forums. You are not the oldest person to be still living at home and you know what to bad if you were. It is your business and that of your parents and if it works for all of you that is great 🙂 My son is 25 (he has multiple disorders) and he still lives at home and doesn't want to leave and that is fine by me I like having him living with us. I think it is great that you obviously have such a close connection with your family.
When I was recovering from mania due to my mental illness I had to sign a lease and it was super stressful. I feel much better about it now but I am not here alone I have my kidults with me so I felt supported. It is a huge step so take your time there is no rush and if you end up staying at home like I said previously that is okay too. Take good care of yourself. greenpea
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